The Internet not only has changed the landscape of marketing and content distribution but also, obviously, our personal lives. Breakups and divorces will never be the same now that social media plays such a huge role in our lives. This brings me to a great movie that I’m ashamed to admit I finally got around to watching. While this isn’t a review of Girl on a Train, one particular scene plays right into this article’s thesis. I’m not going to give away the movie, but the main character Rachel’s difficulty in coming to terms with her ex-husband moving on is captured perfectly as she tracks his life on Facebook.
She tears up as she sees a post of her ex-husband with his new wife and their brand new baby girl. I mean, if anyone has been through a bad breakup or a divorce and you think you can handle watching Girl on a Train it’s definitely the movie to watch. It captures repeated attempts to numb the pain amid the endless swirl of old memories that circle the drain of haunting self-sabotage. No one goes into a marriage saying, “I can’t wait until I divorce you one day.” Who doesn’t go into a marriage with the best intentions?
And as much as I love social media and am pretty good at it, as I’ve been hired in the past to manage social media accounts; I still find myself missing the days when social media wasn’t around. I mean, if you think about it, what would a breakup or a divorce look like without social media or the Internet for that matter? In the pre-Internet and pre-social media days, you could get a divorce or breakup with someone and that’s it. There was no “looking them up” or snooping through social media accounts to see what they are up to or reading their blogs. You know what I mean?
The Bottom Line:
It’s much harder to go through a breakup or a divorce in the 21st century because of everyone’s digital footprint. Having said this, I have been guilty of digging, only to find that it is hurtful to one person: Me. If you are going through a separation, breakup, or divorce do yourself a HUGE favor…don’t look up your ex. If they blocked you on Facebook, don’t use someone else’s account to snoop on them. Don’t “Google” them. It’s tempting to want to see what they are up to, but trust me you don’t want to know.
The past is meant to be left in the past. There’s a road ahead and in this digital age sometimes it’s hard to see it when there are reminders of baggage you left behind. Relationships are hard enough. So is life in general. We don’t need social media to increase the challenges we face everyday. In this 21st century, moving on from a breakup or a divorce means banning yourself from looking up your past on social media.