Life: Slow and Steady Wins The Race

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There’s an avenue in Redondo Beach that dips twice with depressions in the asphalt deep enough that, unless you are driving a big truck or an SUV, you’re liable to experience a horrible sound. The awful scraping is that of your car’s front end getting mangled where the hill bottoms out.

Many motorists “gun it,” not realizing the impending damage to their vehicle. I’ve seen an entire bumper fly off a car when the driver was unaware of how slow they needed to proceed.

For most vehicles to drive down this road unscathed, it requires slowing down to the extent of an almost complete stop. Certainly, a very slow coast. It makes me nervous because there are often cars behind me, impatiently waiting. But, I learned to ignore what’s behind me or who’s upset with me. It’s not about them, it’s about me, the health of my passengers and my vehicle, and where I am going. I don’t want to damage my car, so I block out the agro-drivers who try to bully me into running my car into the ground.

I think life is a lot like this road. We can get distracted by others or by our own inner critique, attempting to shove us forward at lightning speed when it’s not conducive. Sometimes your will and determination have the right intentions, to push you faster than what is realistic at the given time. Circumstances get in the way; life happens. Like my toddler pouring coffee on my laptop. Ever since, I’ve had to borrow the hubby’s laptop to check email or post a blog. I’ve been relying on my iPhone quite a bit.

Not having access to your personal computer in this day and age can be an obstacle. As I write this on my iPad, I find that it’s just not the same. Especially trying to read and comment on other blogger’s posts. Sometimes, my phone will hiccup and erase my comment. I must then start again. Or the buffering time causes delays when trying to read and comment. It’s been a pain. So, I haven’t been updating this blog as much this week and haven’t touched the other 2 blogs I manage. I missed my laptop, as my computer just finally arrived. Though in all honesty, being off my computer forced me to enjoy being more in the moment.

When things happen, all we can do is be patient and wait. Most of us aren’t patient. Personally, I tend to want to get things done immediately and I hate procrastinating. While, being a “go-getter” and a “doer” can be great traits to have, we need to also be aware of proper timing. Most of us want everything now and don’t want to wait. And if we can skip a few steps to jump ahead, most of us would. But, something that I’ve learned is that we’re all on a journey and we’re hopefully learning from our experiences along the way.

As a parent, I’ve learned to slow down and to savor. I genuinely empathized with a blog post by a mother who has learned to weather her personal storm and as a result, enjoys life at a more measured pace. Most people cringe at the word “slow.” It somehow has a derogatory connotation. Slow seems to mean stupid. Slow also appears to mean unproductive. Yet, slow can also mean steady. Slow can also mean deliberate, calculated movement.

We can still move at a productive pace that doesn’t force ourselves to rush into mistakes. Rather, we strategize and think twice to accomplish things the right way and the first time around. When you eat slower, you savor the flavor of your food. Most of us want to gorge our way through life. We take that phone meeting via our car’s Bluetooth, thanks to smart cars and phones, all the while speeding down the freeway with a mouthful of our lunch, rushing to make it to our next destination.


The Bottom Line:

When you slow down to appreciate every movement, you also savor your children and your loved ones rather being in a blind rush. I told myself that if my head is always down working away and busy staying “productive,” I’ll look up one day to see that a decade has gone by. I don’t want to miss moments in my life because I’m too busy keeping busy.

Slow doesn’t mean we have to go at a snail pace but instead that we learn to be more methodical and calculating with the steps we need to take and to know what is priority. Like the tortoise to the hare, slow and steady instead of fast and wild can result in a far greater reward.



Carl Honore



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29 thoughts on “Life: Slow and Steady Wins The Race

    Amanda Tiernan Cabe said:
    April 1, 2017 at 10:39 AM

    This past year has been a year full of lessons to NEVER TAKE ANYTHING FOR GRANTED; especially the everyday. Always a good reminder. Thank you.

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 1, 2017 at 11:00 AM

      I definitely agree, I have learned that slowing down isn’t a bad thing. I didn’t realize just how much I replied on my PC until I had to wait a week until my new one came in. But in general, aside from just life lessons on technology I am learning to be prudent with my time and value the people in my life. 😊

      Thanks for commenting & for connecting! ❤

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    sam100100 said:
    April 1, 2017 at 7:34 PM

    You always select a attractive title.

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    Pam @ Hooks and Hills said:
    April 1, 2017 at 9:32 PM

    Thanks for linking me in Sonyo. Happy to find you and wish you all good things 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 1, 2017 at 10:04 PM

      Wishing you the same, enjoy the rest of your weekend…slowly. 🙂

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    Pam @ Hooks and Hills said:
    April 1, 2017 at 9:32 PM

    P.S. Slow is gooooooooooooood 🙂 X

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 1, 2017 at 10:04 PM

      Indeed it is…the rush is never a good feeling. It leaves in a state of constant anxiety. 🙂

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    realryangray said:
    April 1, 2017 at 10:04 PM

    As the great Sinatra sang, “To rush would be a crime…Nice and easy does it every time.”

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 1, 2017 at 10:05 PM

      That’s right…so true. Frank knew what he was singing about! 🙂

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    Ben Aqiba said:
    April 4, 2017 at 6:30 AM

    Great post

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    thereluctantpoet said:
    April 5, 2017 at 12:48 PM

    Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet and commented:
    For those of you who don’t know or follow Sonyo Estavillo on lilpickmeup.com please let me introduce you to a Super Multi-tasking Mom and Writer. Her posts are so interesting, entertaining, informative and sprinkled with life lessons, true wisdom and humor.

    Please enjoy her post “Life: Slow and Steady Wins The Race”. Also, check out her About Page – “What The Heck Is Happiness Anyway?” and her other posts!

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 6, 2017 at 9:00 AM

      Wow, thank you so much! I am truly humbled and honored. ❤❤❤

      Liked by 1 person

        thereluctantpoet said:
        April 6, 2017 at 7:04 PM

        You are more than welcome, Sonyo!! Happy to share quality writing, great ideas and humor. More please!

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        Sonyo Estavillo responded:
        April 6, 2017 at 7:19 PM

        I’m going to be quoting you soon and the book you suggested that I read in my next blog post! It will be posted tomorrow, so stay tuned! 🙂

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        thereluctantpoet said:
        April 7, 2017 at 1:27 PM

        I will be looking forward to Your new post! I’m always glad to share new info or insights that help others or bring a smile or joy to someone!! Glad it did for You. Love Your heart emoji’s.

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        Sonyo Estavillo responded:
        April 7, 2017 at 1:31 PM

        I just posted it today, check it out when you get a chance. My post is about why reading books are important. I quote your book that you suggested. 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

    Nina said:
    April 6, 2017 at 12:45 AM

    Wonderful post Sonyo! I agree that we need to slow down at some point to be able to appreciate and live in the moment. In this fast-paced world, many people forget to realize the importance of slow…to breathe, to relax, and just be in the moment to enjoy.

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 6, 2017 at 8:57 AM

      Yeah, I definitely think there is a time to speed up. We can still be productive, but in my opinion it all boils down to understanding how to execute tasks without feeling like we’re running around, as the saying goes “like chickens with our heads cut off.” 😊

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        Nina said:
        April 6, 2017 at 10:41 AM

        Right! 😊 Being busy and fast does not necessarily equate to more accomplishments. Sometimes, taking the time saves more time and makes us more efficient because then we can be more careful and thorough… ☺

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    Davy D said:
    April 6, 2017 at 1:40 AM

    An interesting post Sonyo. I think the challenge today, especially with social media, is the speed and quantity of information that the brain is being forced to process. Add to this the constant pull of the ego in being fooled by the likes culture. As you rightly say, small steps are the key, as well as taking time out to enjoy the world around you.

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 6, 2017 at 8:46 AM

      Yes, so true. you wrapped up my thoughts perfectly. We’re at the “Information Age” where anything we want to know is one Google search away. Social media, but most importantly search engines have changed our world and what now grabs our attention. Social media is a fantastic and powerful marketing tool. But using it wisely is key, in my opinion. Thank you for your insightful comment!

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        Davy D said:
        April 6, 2017 at 9:26 AM

        A pleasure Sonyo and looking forward to reading more of your thoughts.

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    innovativeDiyIdeas said:
    April 7, 2017 at 9:21 PM

    amazing post you gave a new meaning to the story

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 8, 2017 at 6:25 PM

      Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed this post and it helped you in some way. I always try to motivate and inspire. 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

    S Francis said:
    April 8, 2017 at 10:51 AM

    Great post, and an essential observation to help us understand how to cope with modern distractions. While great enablers to reconnect with friends or make new ones, social media drives our brains to think too fast and not focus on what matters. Being new to the blogging world, I have immediately found how essential it is to slow down and respect the authors whose older posts are often as valuable as the newer ones. Often we have to move too fast to keep up with our feeds, failing to stop and respect the human behind the feed – both reading and writing. So we bottom out on ideas. I look forward to getting back to your writing, and appreciate my good friend Chuck’s invitation to return my way back to your great blog.

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      Sonyo Estavillo responded:
      April 8, 2017 at 11:25 AM

      Chuck is great! You said it well, learning to respect the person behind the feed. I’m so glad that you try to read older post. Many people don’t take the time, it’s much appreciated. I will check out your blog and look forward to your posts! ❤

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        S Francis said:
        April 8, 2017 at 11:49 AM

        Thank you… and it will be reciprocated when I can charge the ‘puter!!

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