Colors Of Unity

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We are faced with a melting blue sunset, the traces of light drift to sleep and we’re okay with being in this moment. When nature shows its painted face, the mixtures of reflection wash over us with dignity and grace.

There are many days that surge past our grasp, until they fully leave us wondering where the time has gone? It falls away; minutes become hours and then the days turn into years. Ageless, we stop to pause in this moment, to find that you and I are the same.

We are the colors of the sky, different tones that belong to the same spectrum and each distinct hue comes together to paint the same picture. It is the connection that we have, that keeps us bound more than the differences that separate our shades.

Energy Vampires: What or Who is Depleting Your Energy?

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Energy Vampires: What or Who is Depleting Your Energy?
Photo By: Sonyo Estavillo ♥ Sunday Comic “Frazz” By: Jef Mallett

Did you know that our brain uses more energy than any other organ in our body? It takes approximately 20% of the body’s energy to keep our brain’s powered. Everyone is different, but most of us can feel emotionally or physically drained from time to time. I know that having children can deplete our energy, because we’re giving and giving and giving of ourselves on a continuous basis. Read the rest of this entry »

Saying Goodbye To A Dear Old Friend: My MacBook 2011

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I’m writing this on my cellphone, because the toddler poured coffee all over my laptop. I have a 2011 MacBook Pro. I have replaced the hard drive for a solid state, increased its RAM to max memory. The screen, keyboard, motherboard, and graphics card have been replaced (free because the issues weren’t my doing.)  Read the rest of this entry »

Why It’s Important To Do One Thing At A Time

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Why It’s Important To Do One Thing At A Time

Most of us multitask, but how effective are we when we do so? Yesterday, I decided to try to do something I haven’t recently. I tried doing just one thing at a time. What an original idea, right? I mean, if you actually try to do one thing at a time, you’ll find that it’s harder to do than you realize. When mastered however, it can save you a lot of time making you more efficient. Read the rest of this entry »

WordPress Meet and Greet – All Bloggers Welcome

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As I said in a previous post I’m trying to network with more bloggers, so I’m reblogging this thanks to Jason AKA “Opinionated Man” @ Harsh Reality. Hoping more people will like, follow, comment and grow our network! I always follow back and have been doing my best to comment more on other blogs that I read.

Feel free to check out the original post. There are over 2000 bloggers commenting and waiting to connect on the thread!

Happy Monday!!! 🙂

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Well this is the third post I have done like this so far and I have seen some great connections. I’ll keep doing these off and on and I think they provide a great way for “active bloggers” to network. This post now has over 2,000 active bloggers waiting to connect in it. I encourage anyone looking for new blogs to view or people to converse with to browse through the comment section and network.

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Focusing On The Right Details

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The details get washed by our fast paced lives until days go by in a blur and everything in them fades into long sleepless nights. Insomnia draws out my days and forces me to struggle awake after my mind has finally shut down. But, I try to stop and see the details in the smallest things, to pause and ingest sheer beauty. Read the rest of this entry »

Stopping Myself From Stopping Myself

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Sometimes depression speaks to me through resounding voices that ask me what the hell am I doing all this for. Then, I find myself consumed with feeling absurd, that perhaps stringing words together is nothing more than a waste of time. The writer inside yearns for continuous approval, and removing denial from the equation exposes my weakness, that I am too delicate and too easily broken. Read the rest of this entry »

To Search The Past

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We look out in search for resolve

Disguising today with yesterday

Stuck replaying stupid mistakes

Until right now is the only place

Ignore this moment will dissolve

Regret finds a day to replay again

Moving beyond cold superficiality

Finding love and joy to be internal

FLOWER

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Fuchsia life overcomes me

Laving in your excellence, I cradle splendor in my hand

Overwhelmed by the conviction in the air

We sit in silence holding on to hope, holding onto each other

Excising oppressive clouds, the sun showers its approval

Releasing you at last, to let you live out your beauty

 

You Were Wrong

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You’ll be a terrible mother, you said

You’ll never be wanted by anyone, you said

You’ll be another pathetic divorced wife, you said

You’ll never be a real writer, you said

You’ll amount to nothing, you said

You’ll be sorry when I leave you, you said

You’ll never be good enough, you said

You’ll always be crazy, you said

You’ll never be happy, you said

Guess what…you were wrong

If You Want To Traditionally Publish Your Novel, Don’t Self-Publish

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Counter to my own beliefs on self-publishing versus traditional publishing, I found out the raw truth behind the challenges. A while back, I wrote a popular post on To Self-Publish or Not Self-Publish, as I was conflicted on the big debate. Traditional publishing is what most aspiring authors hope to achieve. I say aspiring authors because we’re all professional writers, but an author is published. I know this sounds very elementary but many writers get it wrong. Read the rest of this entry »

The Benefits of Attending A Writer’s Conference: Pitching to Agents & More

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One of the obvious benefits of attending a writer’s conference is pitching to agents face to face. An agent even commented during the recent West Coast Writers Conference in Los Angeles that attendees are already ahead of the game, as compared to blind query submissions from writer’s they never met or at least referred to them.

There’s a wealth of information at conference attendees’ disposal. Let’s investigate. Read the rest of this entry »

Pursuing The Arts: Depression & Creative Minds

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Fell in love with this charcoal work by Bored Art. Discovered it while searching for a perfect image to reflect depression & those that suffer from it. This is a magnificent portrayal.

Depression and writing seem to go hand in hand, at least they do for me. The hardest thing about the arts is pursuing a big picture and personal vision without experiencing discouragement. Read the rest of this entry »

We All Become Manic After The New Year!

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The New Year brings out the manic in all of us; at least I can speak for myself, anyway. It’s not like I’m not already prone to a little OCD…well, I’m actually more than a little OCD.

Every year we get a chance to kick ourselves in the ass and broadcast to our friends and loved ones all the things we have on our to-do list during the coming year. One of my manic goals is that I plan on posting a blog every day, which isn’t such a bad thing ex Read the rest of this entry »

Do Your Shortcomings Make You A Good Writer?

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Insomnia has been one of the most challenging aspects of my life, but I manage with the right medication. Depression is the second most challenging fight. And currently, I’m winning. But, on the sleep front, the battle is ongoing. It’s already taken a few trial and error rounds with my doctor in order to treat my chronic insomnia and to find the right medication that works. Read the rest of this entry »

Finding Time To Blog & Finish That Novel

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The most challenging thing I find about being a writer is not so much writer’s block or even completing an 80,000-word novel, as many people assume.

For me, writing a novel is the easy part. But it’s not so simple to revise and rewrite it. Let’s not forget our blogs that require daily, if not, weekly maintenance in order to market ourselves and build our platforms. Working on your novel and building a blogging network at the same time can pose many challenges, not the least of which time management. For example, often when I’m writing a blog post I catch myself thinking, “I should really be working on my book.” Read the rest of this entry »

Dear Past: I am Happy For You & I Forgive You!

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This post isn’t about forgiving someone who is currently in your life. It’s specifically about forgiving people you no longer have contact with.

It’s easy to be happy for a friend or a loved one, or anyone who has been supportive and caring towards you. But, can you be happy for someone who has hurt you? Can you be happy for those who still haunt your soul?

How many ghosts do you have? I have a few that haunt me. They linger around whenever I am trying to live in the present, until they’ve successfully dragged me back into the land of the past. Read the rest of this entry »

Catch & Release: Why You Must Do Both When Dealing With Emotional Baggage

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It’s not easy to release the unnecessary baggage you’ve been carrying around with you all this time unless you know to how to catch yourself holding onto it.

The past is the hardest thing to rid ourselves of, mostly because we don’t realize that it is weighing us down. Or we have become addicted to the pull. I’m one of those people. But on Oct. 10, I turned one year older, and hopefully I am also one year wiser. Read the rest of this entry »

Political Discrimination: Are People Judging You Based On Your Vote?

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I’m a bit of a news junkie; I guess there are worse addictions. So, as you can imagine every four years the elections is likened to what the Super Bowl is to a sports fanatic. I saw my therapist yesterday and she said she’s never seen so many patients who are overly passionate, even emotional over this election cycle. Now, I wasn’t really pontificating on politics but I briefly mentioned an encounter I had with some Twitter users. Read the rest of this entry »

Are You Too Hard or Too Easy on Yourself?

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Do you cut yourself too much slack? It’s okay to let yourself splurge sometimes; you don’t need to be so hard on yourself, of course. But, being too lax can end up negatively affecting you down the road.

The interesting thing about consequences is that they don’t always show up immediately. If you are too easy on yourself in high school, you kick yourself when it’s time to get into a decent college. If you party too much during college, then you find yourself floating aimlessly after you graduate. That’s if you graduate. Read the rest of this entry »

Never Negotiate Your Integrity

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Life is certainly too short to live our lives affected by other people’s decisions. That’s why we have to reach a point of focusing on our own choices and how we can better live our lives. We only have control over ourselves, but certainly people do affect us with their stubborn refusal to negotiate. When dealing with inflexible people, sometimes the only thing to do is to get up and walk away. This is as true in business and as it is in most areas of our lives. Read the rest of this entry »

The Force of Positive Connection

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Photo by Sonyo Estavillo shot on Canon T5i at the South Coast Botanical Gardens

Early this morning on my way to the gym, I saw a disheveled homeless man convincingly arguing with a phantom antagonist. He was waving his hands in the air to emphasize an imperative point.

We call people like this homeless man crazy, but I wonder how much of his insanity stems from isolation and the need for positive connection. I wonder how many of us dog lovers have better conversations with our four-legged friends than with humans. I wonder if like this homeless man, we are all craving a little conversation and are willing to argue with ourselves just to feel the rise of human emotion, reminding us we’re still alive. Read the rest of this entry »

Love Is A Verb

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The one thing I’ve learned in my travels, having lived all over the United States, is how easy it is for people to come and go in your life. Those who remain in our lives for the long haul are meant to be a part of it. Their love is demonstrated through their actions and not just their words. Read the rest of this entry »

Practicing Mindfulness

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Monitoring Social Media Usage to Live in the Real Moment Rather Than the Virtual One

Mindfulness today is hard to achieve especially living in our current, highly distracting information and technology driven society. Our gadgets have become highly addictive and often get in the way of ordinary social engagement. I am really guilty of this. Just look around for yourself the next time you are at a restaurant. Pay attention to how many people are not talking to those they are with and instead are glued to their smart phones. Read the rest of this entry »

Insomnia: Can Getting Sleep Reduce Depression?

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Insomnia = Depression?

I have always been a night owl. Without fail, I’d stay up way too late and often not by choice. Insomnia has been a big part of most, if not, all of my life. People who can just fall asleep with ease have always baffled me. I mean, they lie down and within 5 minutes or less they’re totally OUT! I have no idea what that feels like and have a doctor’s prescribed medication that helps me fall asleep at night. Those of us with true chronic and life long insomnia can wake up at 5 am, run a marathon, remain busy from morning until night, maybe even solve all the world’s problems and still can’t fall asleep at night. Read the rest of this entry »