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Having a minimalist approach to success means understanding how to quantify your wins. Success is often measured on a large scale, but you don’t have to win the Nobel Prize to feel like a winner.
Some people seem to make life effortless whether that means: exercising; landing their dream job; parenting kids; abstaining from addiction; living a balanced life; having the energy to stick to your scheduled “sex day” after you’ve been with each other for years upon years; not being bored with eating at home every night; sticking to a budget; saving for retirement; not saying a sentence without the word “shit” or “fuck” in it; writing down New Year’s resolutions and actually sticking to them; picking a “safe” career and being okay with it; likewise, picking a creative career with lots of competitive challenges and uncertainty and being okay with it; flipping a negative and seeing the positive; laughing with people who make fun of you; not taking yourself so seriously; knowing how to take jokes; knowing how to write jokes and actually make people laugh; not taking things personally; working with catty employees and actually getting along with them; not caring if people don’t include you; being okay with being alone; not saying “fuck you” to the person that cuts you off on the road; not reacting when someone else is having a shitty day; listening more and talking less; not bragging about yourself, and; staying humble (one of the hardest on the list.)
The list can go on and on folks.
Some people, in comparison to you and me, seem as though their life is abundant with wins. Conquests after conquests. Win after win. Challenges? What challenges? Everything seems to be a breeze. It may or may not be easier for them to succeed; it may just be that they don’t always report their losses. Or maybe, just maybe they’ve learned to add up their small wins. Minimalism, means reducing your measurement tool to what you define as a win.
No, you might not have won the Nobel Prize. No, you might not have won free tickets to Coachella. No, you might not have been born with a super fast metabolism, so you’re NOT perpetually skinny. No, you might not have been born with genetically pre-disposed good looks. No, you might not have been born with a damn trust fund or parents who helped pay for college. No, you might not be privileged. No, you might not feel like a winner.
Maybe, just maybe your measuring stick in which you define as “success” is up there with Michael Jordan.
The fact is, success is subjective. It’s a matter of perspective. If you have depression, waking up and taking a shower in the morning (or afternoon) is a WIN. If you suffer from social anxiety, going to a barbecue to mingle with strangers is a WIN. If you are unhappy with your work, researching and applying for another job is a WIN. If you’re lonely, having a random deep conversation with a stranger, is a WIN. If you used to smoke a pack of cigarettes and now, you’re down to 4 cigarettes a day, damn it, that’s a WIN. If you’re overweight and you walk for 20 minutes, 3 times a week when ordinarily you used to just sit around on your butt, shit, that’s a WIN. If you’ve had a bad day, month, quarter, year and you still find the strength in you to be grateful for what you do have, my friend, that is a big WIN.
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The Bottom Line:
Stop complicating your life with unreasonable expectations. Stop ignoring your little wins. Yeah, they’re little. Hell, I’ll admit, they might even be itty-bitty wins. Like, you washed your car after not washing it for months. Hey, that’s a WIN. Okay. I mean it. That’s a win. It might not be a big enough win for you. But, it’s a win nonetheless.
Minimize and simplify your perspective with regards to success by adjusting your instrument. Measure and acknowledge your small wins. Because, they are WINS. No, you’re not Michael Jordan, but he’s also not you. Happiness isn’t about the award, it’s about the journey that has transformed you into who you are today. And guess what? Add up all your little wins and at the end of the day; end of the month; end of the quarter; end of the year; all your microscopic wins add up to SUCCESS!
For more on minimalism, please check out the participating bloggers:
Mylene C. Orillo: How Grief Taught Me to Keep My Life Simple
Ipuna Black: Minimalism: What gives you meaning in life?
Sadaf Siddiqi: Value of Minimalism
Sonyo Estavillo: Minimalism For Success: Why Little Wins Count!
Gelyka Ruth Dumaraos: Being More with Less: Embracing a Simple Life by Being Zero-Waste