I disconnected my Facebook profile and I can’t tell you how liberating it feels. The thought of waking up and living each day in the present, savoring each moment, as opposed to living through the social media lens, is invigorating.
Sure, you might miss out on updates from friends located all around the world. You might miss moments when others could “like” one of your posts about seeing some celebrity at the supermarket or about your latest promotion. Maybe, you’re just posing with your real estate agent, who helped you land the home of your dreams.
But, what if none of that mattered? What if you took a higher, more humble road and refrained from blasting your latest victory, and instead decided to deactivate your Facebook account, altogether? We’re not talking about being too drastic and deleting it, but how bad would it be to take a vacation from the overpowering and addicting world of social media? Now don’t get me wrong, social media for business marketing purposes is highly effective. But, it can also dissolve reality and make us believe we have more support than we actually do and that we are more important than we actually are.
Facebook, more so than any other social media sites gives one the illusion of friendships that don’t actively exist outside of the viral world. And no other sites have gotten more people fired, either.
To illustrate that social profiles never die, Facebook allows you to reactivate your profile at anytime without losing any friends or any content you previously posted. So, you’re disconnecting without actually losing anything – and keeping Facebook’s ad revenue stream intact.
So, what is the purpose of disconnecting then, if all your “stuff” is forever documented online? Well, sometimes we need to take a mental break from Facebook and other sites. That might come across as too simple of a solution for some, especially those who cannot imagine life without logging in. Personally, I have found Facebook to be not only time consuming but also a disengagement tool rather than one of engagement, as users can choose to easily ignore real-life friends for fake ones they don’t really know – and they don’t know us – so there is a reduced chance of rejection.
We relegate “friends” to two-dimensional photos and profiles and erect walls to our real self via timeline posts that are often exaggerated to say the least.
The Bottom Line:
My reason for deactivating my account isn’t technical in nature, but personal. I grew tired of the political games, namely the comparisons of where you’ve worked, where you went to school, your social status, pedigree, and current personal or career success. While on one hand inspiring, it can also often be horribly demoralizing. Not because talent doesn’t deserve to be recognized, but that to be recognized, you have to unabashedly trumpet your skills, education and accomplishments.
Now, this is not to say that every profile on Facebook belongs to a braggart, but I felt bombarded by what everyone wants the world to see rather than what the world really is. Everyone wants the best digital profile with perfect family pictures and cute captions. I’ve been guilty of the very same thing after I had my daughter. It’s hard to be a proud parent and not end up exploiting your child’s cuteness. But in reality, many on Facebook aren’t even close to being perfect, or frankly caring much about what’s going on in your life. They’re living each day just to get by, hoping there will be energy left for a shower, let alone spending the rest of the day completely being consumed by a baby.
I do still use Facebook for professional reasons only, so I have a few of my pages managed by someone else. I also use other social media sites for professional reasons. Other than that, Facebook, I bid you adieu. You’re not going anywhere, but I have somewhere to be at the moment. And that’s on my way to being a better me, without the presumption that others need to watch me every step of the way.
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