The Condition of Unconditional Love

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More times than not we place conditions on everything. This is especially true when it comes to love. I am not necessarily speaking of romantic love but the kind that you give to yourself. But, many of us continue to place conditions on ourselves as we do others.

There’s a quota we must all meet, and if this minimum is not satisfied, then we put up barriers and our love is constrained. Disappointment can equally set in and devastate our motivation when we haven’t lived up to our own expectations. FYI – beating up on yourself or others, whether physically or verbally, is not love.

Loving unconditionally and beginning with yourself might, for example, mean that you put your health first. Health encompasses mental, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and physical wellness. Without understanding that you need to put yourself first, you fall victim of trying too hard to care for others on an empty tank. You don’t have a reservoir of love that fuels you with the energy you need. When you run on empty, you cannot give what you don’t have, especially when you fail to recognize that you don’t love yourself enough.

Love is a word that is thrown around and overused quite a bit in our society. But, love is more than a word or a deep emotion. It’s an action, one you take to ensure that you care enough about your own wellbeing and the wellbeing of others to not always do the right thing, but do what is absolutely necessary. It is necessary for some of us to exercise daily. I know for me, I must schedule exercise time because it’s vital for my mental, emotional, psychological, physical, and even spiritual wholeness. When I don’t exercise, I am prone to depressive episodes, which come like vengeance and faster than I would ever expect or desire. I’ve learned that exercise is one of my top coping skills, one that is scientifically proven to help most people who are prone to emotional ups and downs. Exercise has especially worked on me. When I am exercising, I feel at my best.

This is why I have my Fitbit and I use it to track how far I walk. I essentially walk 5 to 7 miles every single day, roughly 10,000 to 15,000 steps a day and averaging about 35 to 42 miles a week. Exercise works for me, but so does getting out in the sunshine and soaking up Vitamin D and naturally increasing serotonin levels in my brain. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday I walk with my 65-year-old friend Melanie. We walk our dogs religiously; we try really hard not to flake on each other. By diversifying my exercise routine and not just hitting the gym, but also walking with a friend, I ensure to get outside where I can get sunshine and also increase my level of happiness while visiting with a good friend, someone who I know I can count on. But this is just one example of how I love myself. I didn’t always love myself or know how to. I found that with love, especially unconditional love, it can take a life time to learn how to not just know what unconditional love is but to actually practice it. Sometimes it takes having a child for some of us to get a little taste of what real unconditional love is.

Sometimes, it’s extremely difficult for some to even get out of bed, let alone walk for any length. This is especially true for those suffering from a mental illness, personal tragedy or circumstance that sets them back. This is also true for someone with a body that is failing them. But, where there is a will there is a way. Down the beachwalk where I stroll my dogs throughout the day, I’ve noticed what appeared to be a grandson helping his grandmother walk. Her back was hunched over due to severe osteoporosis; she was using a walker and shuffling along extremely slow. It was like she was moving in slow motion, because she actually was! But there was a determination in her that was unmistakable. People were getting frustrated, walking around and zipping past her. But, she kept going. I’ve seen several elderly folks out walking in the same situation. I recall one gentleman that looked to be 90-something going all of 1.5 miles or so on the treadmill at the gym. He was moving slowly, but he was moving. He wasn’t lying around expecting to die. The best thing you can do for yourself when you are ill or aching is to get up and move. Especially if you have two arms and legs that are still functioning and your doctor says it’s good for you.

Of course, where we might need to draw the line when it comes to unconditional love is, for example, when we’ve got a loved one who is an addict of some kind. I often watch Intervention, the A&E docuseries. One of the major ongoing toxic cycles is when one person is an addict and family or loved ones are enablers. This same cycle rears its ugly head in another docuseries/reality show that explores the challenges of food addiction: My 600-Ib Life. With both shows, there is always an addict and then the enabling family or loved ones. In situations such as these, where self-harm is likely to take place usually directly connected to “loving” family members enabling such self-destructive behavior, then tough-love is necessary. Tough love is love, it simply is not the typical romanticized unconditional love envision in our heads. This is why the same unconditional love you first experienced with your newborn is the same type of love that one can mistaken as unconditional, enabling negative behavior when that child becomes an adult. Enabling poor behavior is not unconditional love. It’s not at all healthy or beneficial for anyone involved. It takes some wisdom and discernment to understand the big difference.

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In other words, unconditional love should not be taken out of context. You shouldn’t enable negative, self-destructive behavior all in the name of unconditional love. It can exist but it’s often limited by the conditions and restrictions we place upon ourselves as well as on others. People aren’t always going to behave the way we want them to. Situations might arise where we’re not capable of meeting our own personal demands and expectations we set for ourselves. Disappointment is inevitable, but loving yourself and loving in general should not be subject to external conditions and unrealistic requirements that can bring disappointment when expectations aren’t met.

If we walk away with nothing else, it’s truly in the old adage that love should be directed towards ourselves first. It’s necessary to ensure that love fuels first our internal engines, because without it our external world dissolves into a hopeless chase expecting to find love outside of ourselves when, instead, we’re running on empty. Before you can give to others, you need to first give to yourself. It’s like when the flight attendant is talking to you about what to do if an airplane experiences technical issues, must descend rapidly and lose oxygen. If you have a child, the first thing they instruct you to do is for you to put your own mask on first, then help your child put on their oxygen mask. Why? Because you can’t help your child unless you help yourself first. There’s a time and place for love and there’s a time and place to be a little selfish and think about you.

The most important rule when it comes to love: You can’t give what you don’t have.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Diversify Your Coping Skills

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If you’ve watched Limitless you’ll probably agree that the concept of taking one pill to make you brilliant, happy and invincible is not a new one. Like the “fountain of youth” we’re always looking for that magic elixir that will make us younger and more beautiful, or the best medically crafted and extensively researched pill that can make us not only exceptionally happy but also elevate our IQ to a level that provides us with solutions to all of life’s problems and removes from our mind all doubt in our abilities.

The popular trend heads more towards a culture obsessed with organic living, one that praises the holistic, go-green, recycle, anti-dairy, gluten-free, take-your-vitamins-and-herbs, and don’t-forget-to-consume-only-organic/non-pesticide-riddled-food. Others find a bit more comfort in modestly embracing the organic trend, realizing that not everything prescribed by our doctor or psychiatrist is necessarily horrible or evil. I believe in a customizable approach to life, where people ought to realize that they’re individuals and that not just one solution fits everyone. Read the rest of this entry »

Why Embrace Being Average?

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I finally got around to watching “Big Hero 6” via Redbox and was surprised at how much I enjoyed the story as well as the moral behind it. In many ways the movie hits the mark in describing that inside all of our geeky, quirky, and oddball shells lies a soul longing to fight against dullness.

There’s a huge fascination for turning yourself from an ordinary human into someone with super powers: Hollywood, comic book creators and video game developers exploit this. Let’s also not forget sci-fi and fantasy writers. It’s nice to live vicariously through an avatar, one that is stronger, braver and smarter than you may ever be. Read the rest of this entry »

Managing ADD/ADHD: Simplify

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As a child I wasn’t diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder, but I always new that I was different. As an adult, a doctor would later confirm my suspicions. I recall, childhood was laborious. My handwriting was extremely messy, I read slower than other students, and it was harder for me to get focused. I wasn’t the hyper kid bouncing off the walls, but I remember being a talker. The absolute most difficult thing in the world was taking tests.

From the time I was in elementary school all the way up until I got my master’s degree, test taking was never ever my forte. Only during special situations and classes that really interested me did my brain seem to memorize the material photographically. I recall one of my favorite classes was cultural anthropology at a community college. I don’t know why I enjoyed it so much, maybe because it explored a variety of cultures, societies, lifestyles, religions, and all with such an educated, yet open-minded objectivity. I found exploring cultures so fascinating, and I still do. Read the rest of this entry »

Going With the Flow Can Result in the Best Decisions Made

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Going With the Flow Can Result in the Best Decisions Made

I recently found myself consumed with tasks that take up a good portion of my mental and physical energy, hence the lag in updating this blog. I had been meaning to post one or more articles daily, or at the very least, on a weekly basis. It’s amazing that, when push comes to shove, some things must really be put on the back burner while life takes priority. Everyone will tell you until it almost becomes an exhausted cliché, that “Oh, just write down a list of what your priorities are and what aren’t.”

But often it’s true the best way to decide what needs to be tackled is to just make it brutally simple for yourself and tackle what needs to be done right this second and let the rest wait until later. But, what if all the tasks on your list hold equal importance in your eyes? I think it’s important to understand the way our minds work in these instances. Read the rest of this entry »

One-Dimensional Thinking: What’s Your Label?

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One-Dimensional Thinking: What’s Your Label?

It sounds like a generic interview question, but what is the one adjective that best describes you? Do you consider yourself hardworking, motivated, conscientious, methodical, a team player, honest, reliable, confident, ambitious, or punctual?

There’s not a soul that doesn’t have their own best intention in mind, and certainly for a job interview we all want to ensure we put our best foot forward. The same goes for cover letters and resumes but also for online profiles, in-person networking opportunities, the first time meeting your partner’s parents — nearly everyone wants to present him or herself in the best possible light. Read the rest of this entry »

Social Media Obsession: Do You Have A Life?

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Once upon a time, I thoroughly enjoyed updating my whereabouts 24/7, especially on Facebook. Guilty like many of the other 1.39 billion users around the globe, I would post sexy pictures of the most scrumptious meals and boast as to where I was dining, or shopping or whatever that day. And if not updates of provocative, mouth-watering and expensive meals there were the pictures from Disneyland, the weekend getaways, the latest DLSR camera purchase, or simply a note with a picture of my washed Prius just to demonstrate how nice and shiny it is. Oh…and let’s not forget doggy and kitty pictures. They are by far the best especially when wanting to garner extra attention.

It’s true, we’ve all been guilty of bragging, boasting, gloating, exulting, and showing off via social networking accounts. Caught red-handed and equally red-faced, I refrained from the boastful social media braggadocio for the first month and a half of this year. But recently I backslid and allowed a fitbit sticker I won to be posted on my timeline. I proudly gloated that I walked 20,000 steps in a day exactly 12 days ago, not that I was counting. (Well, yeah, I was.) And although it garnered only two “likes,” I was pleased with myself and patted myself on the back while enjoying a couple of “atta-girls” from FB friends. Sigh. But there are so many friends and family members who are rather talented at soliciting enough likes to graduate them to a level of importance that supersedes us dull, unpopular FB folk. Read the rest of this entry »

Dealing With Haters: Internet Trolls and Nasty Comments

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I have been bombarded by comments as I have two blogs I write and manage, this one and tvshowjunky. I find myself mostly deleting rather than approving them. Either someone is trying to promote a work-from-home opportunity or they have nothing better to do than to troll and try to pick an Internet fight. So it was little surprise to receive a pretty rotten comment from f*cky*, originating from IP address,, tracked to someone in the region of Alberta within the city of Edmonton, Canada to be specific. There was also this whois link attached:

The attack was in response to an article I posted that tends to generate the most views: From Tots to Adults: When Spoiled Brats Grow Up into Bigger Ones! Let’s just say that I was called a word rhyming with “blunt,” and my mother (who is Korean) was suddenly a Chinese piece of sh*t. Yes, we look alike, but c’mon! Read the rest of this entry »

Planting Yourself In the Proper Soil: A Lesson From Nature

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It’s been almost two years since I discovered my love for orchids. Ever since, through trial and error, I have learned that orchids can be simple, yet fickle, even sensitive indoor plants to grow. For in everything in life we can glean similar lessons from nature, if only we truly pay attention to the subtle way it speaks to us.

In June, I wrote about my initial experience with repotting orchids. I learned that when you don’t repot an orchid in a proper pot, the chances of the flower surviving long-term is slim. And just like in real life, if we don’t decide to spread our wings we become stunted. We can’t grow by confining our roots. Back in June, two out of my three orchids died mainly because I didn’t repot them in time. I replaced them and assumed I knew the “orchid trick” to keep them living a long time. Upon getting two more orchids to replace the deceased ones I immediately learned my lesson and bought orchid pots. Read the rest of this entry »

Mind, Body & Spirit: They’re All Connected

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Relationship of body, mind and spirit

Our mind, body and spirit are truly connected. This is why if you stop feeding what lifts your spirit, no matter how physically fit or mentally sharp you might be, there remains an imbalance in your life. The same can be said about our body.

You might work really hard to keep your spirit afloat; in fact, that’s all you live for is to do what ever it is you do. Your work and your title can make you feel on top of this world. However, if you’re too busy working, especially with a high paying, high demand job, then your body might be totally out of shape or stress might be preventing you from getting a decent night’s sleep. Your blood pressure might be through the roof, and your cardiologist might warn that if you don’t slow down and get healthy you’ll be on the brink of a heart attack. That’s if you haven’t already had one. Read the rest of this entry »

The Power of Pain

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We’re never quite ready for what we’re about to face in life when it involves two ingredients: unpredictability and pain. I’m one of those who thrive off of solid plans; I work best with some sort of structure, and knowing where I stand makes me feel secure. If you asked me, surprises are overrated. I’m not big on them.

However, I don’t care if you claim to be the world’s leading psychic — no one can completely be prepared for tragedy to strike. As I described in my last post, an unexpected tragedy struck one woman whose life would be forever altered. On Saturday, Dec. 16, 2006, 26 year-old Claudia Salley drove her husband and her four-month-old son Levi westbound on Interstate 20 in Shreveport, Louisiana. While Claudia slowed her family’s white Lincoln due to road construction, the 18-wheeler behind her didn’t. Read the rest of this entry »

I Will Be Happy When__________________.

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I can’t begin to tell you how often I have played this game. You know, “the happiness game” where I become fixated on this “major” situation that may or may not be so serious. But it is to me at the time, and if only I can accomplish the goal or avoid the calamity then I’ll be sooo happy.

Have you ever had a “major” thing, be it a goal, desire or wish that you fantasized and dreamed about daily, even to the point of obsession?

I bet that with enough sweat, hard work and tenacity you reached that major goal just like I have. Maybe you bathed in euphoria afterward, but how long did the high last?

According to psychological research, there’s a name to the drop off in happiness after having achieved or reached your coveted goal. The phenomenon is called hedonic adaptation and it’s essentially when we adapt to whatever it is we’ve achieved regardless of how grand the result. In fact, the idea is you return back to the same emotional state before your big reward. Read the rest of this entry »

The Joy of Being vs. Doing

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I need to keep busy and often. If I have too much time on my hands, then I feel like something is wrong and my day feels wasted. For many of us, what we don’t realize is that we’re filled with distractions, ones that can mostly be blamed on ourselves. We usually create distractions for ourselves because often times it’s better than facing what the silence might reveal to us.

For a very long time I needed to keep so busy that working 65-75 hours a week was not only tolerable, but eventually became the norm and the only thing that made me feel satisfied. Once you set a really high bar for yourself and you’re able to somewhat clear it, then nothing below this extraordinarily high standard computes to success. Why is it wrong to have out-of-this-world, ridiculous standards for yourself? Because it not only affects you, it becomes the standard you place on everyone else. It’s not always obvious that you are actually projecting your impossible standards on others because you’re doing so subconsciously. If you’re reflective enough you might catch yourself doing it, or if your fortunate enough a good friend will pull you aside to explain what you can’t see. Read the rest of this entry »

Think-Change: Five Things to Stop Doing to Create a Better You

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Brain Idea for Success or Inspiration , eps10 vector formatDid you know that scientific research found that the brain doesn’t fully develop – especially your prefrontal cortex, the problem solving part of your brain – until your mid-20s?

However, a neuroscientist Sarah-Jayne Blakemore at the Institute of Cognitive Neuroscience at University College, London explained in a 2010 article that the brain continues to change shape well into your 30s and 40s. In fact, the prefrontal cortex of our brain takes the longest to develop and is the key area in charge of high cognitive functions: planning, decision making, social behavior, social awareness, emotional intelligence, and various personality traits.

So, when we are told to “grow up” and “get with the program” or “stop being so immature,” technically we can blame it on our brain development or lack there of. What does this have to do with the direction of our lives, especially now that we’re in the New Year and everyone is claiming 2015 as a better year for them? Everything. Read the rest of this entry »

The Power of Surrender

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Surrender seems like an ethereal concept, one that takes more than power of will to remove the ego and to just let go. When stubbornness gets in the way of true change, we find that we’re stuck with old software uploaded into the most complex computer on earth — our brains.

We desire to improve but are often in the way of our own progress because unconsciously we continue to trigger emotions that reinforce negative childhood experiences, hold onto outdated beliefs and recreate negative behaviors, those of which we were taught long ago. We haven’t found a way to uninstall the old software and reprogram our brain with new, improved and healthier software that we’ve personally designed. It is not based upon forced ideals from circumstances, environment or society.

If we could only comprehend how much power we have over the results we wish to see in our lives, we’d stop doubting our capabilities and value the power we hold within us. It goes way beyond the overused concept of “self-esteem” and having “self confidence.” Plenty of successful people have confidence, but they lack the capability to expand outside of their box and welcome change regardless of how flawless their lives appear to be or what they’ve gained externally and the versions of themselves that they flaunt. Everyone today can create a social media profile, one that allows for a perfectly catered exterior and tastefully chosen posts in order to boast and throw up the illusion of an unblemished life. Read the rest of this entry »

Merry Christmas, Ramadan, Chanukah, Kwanzaa, Winter Solstice, Tet, Festivus…in otherwords HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

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I just discovered this YouTube video Can we make jingle bells and thought it was not only fun, but fitting. I hope everyone enjoys this holiday with loved ones regardless of your religious affiliation or lack thereof.




Writing True to One’s Self

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Do you have a gimmick? That’s how a lot of bloggers get noticed today. They choose their narrative voice and then they decide that perhaps sensationalism is the right approach. And judging by responses from other bloggers, I guess it works. I don’t know how big I am on writing with a gimmick in mind. Sensationalism is a good way to catch someone’s attention— I’ll give you that. I mean, some people are willing to let it all hang out.

I will at times be extremely frank or honest while commenting on a post, and recently I opened up my more “opinionated side” on my newest site, I mean it’s really new, as I only have three posts so far. Anyway, I suppose that particular site is written using more of an “in your face” approach. It might even be considered gimmicky to some folks, it’s not my intention but it very well can be perceived that way. Read the rest of this entry »

No, I’m Not Upgrading My Cell Phone

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I am sure there are those of you out there who can’t wait to upgrade your gadget, but when it comes to technology cell phones tend to be the easiest, most popular (and sometimes cheapest) item to upgrade. If you’re with one of the major carriers you’re likely due for an upgrade every two years. And although your PC gets outdated just as quickly as any smart phone or tablet, it’s not so easy to replace this larger item every six months to a year. Plus, smartphones and tablets are gaining ground as the primary “computer.”

But, ultimately, what does it matter if you get a new cell phone, especially if your current one works perfectly fine? Often it’s a matter of keeping up with the Jones’, as there are many cheaper smartphones now available, and many users don’t even come close to needing the features of the more expensive varieties. Read the rest of this entry »

Choosing Your Blog Platform: vs.

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When you begin designing a site, you need to consider how much time you want to invest and how technical you’d like to get. Those who use a WordPress platform for personal blog, portfolio or professional site have probably heard that there are differences between and

Honestly, I kind of kicked myself for not first building in But if you move over a site you will likely lose your followers as well as links, and even more complications can arise. One of the things that I dislike about is that you don’t have that much control or flexibility over the template you choose. Similarly, lacks some flexibility. This is why if you truly want to build something totally your way, you should consider a web designer who can build it from scratch. However, for blogs some of us like to make things as easy on ourselves as possible. I am no expert at either, but makes it super easy for anyone to erect a quick blog. But, if you eventually want to start making money as a blogger, makes that virtually impossible. Well, at least extremely difficult. Read the rest of this entry »

Family & The Holidays: What Money Cannot Buy

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‘Tis the season to be…frugal? While the holidays can bring up so many wonderful emotions it can equally be stressful on the wallet as well on the willpower.

holiday-credit-hangover-image-blogAccording to recent stats from, consumers racked up $28.8 billion on their cards during the second quarter. That was after the same people had finished paying off $32.5 billion in credit card debt during the first quarter. Even if you are using self-restraint and decide to leave the credit cards at home or do something really throwback and bring cash instead, you should still heed overzealous cashiers. conducted a recent survey and found that many retail stores are pushing their own store credit card on to consumers. And approximately 49 percent of consumers who caved into a store credit card after qualifying grew to regret the decision. Meanwhile, three out of 10 Americans admitted they actually felt bullied by various store employees who overtly promote store-issued credit cards by promising such deals as another 30% off the sales price.

Hey, the tactic works, but is that what holidays are all about? Of course not, as most people admit that it’s about spending time with family. But a Daily Mail article in the UK also found that families are now spending slightly a little more than a half an hour of quality time together per day — 36 minutes to be exact. That equates to parents and their children spending a total of eight hours together during the week and two hours on the weekend. The article went on to point out that more than half of surveyed adults (56 percent) stated that the only real time they spend with their family is during a holiday vacation. Read the rest of this entry »

Life Transition? Reinvent Yourself!

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stockAccording to a Huffington Post article, 55 percent of American women polled by PayPal explained that they are entrepreneurs because they seek a healthier work-life balance. Meanwhile, 47 percent of women said that passion for their career was their strongest motivation. For me, both passion and obtaining a work-life balance (quality family time) is extremely important. This is why I strive to keep an open mind when it comes to expanding my self-employment opportunities.

Risk is risk no matter the career. But it’s especially risky as competition increases, such as in a creative field, and takes even more guts. I had an exciting opportunity to work with a friend from undergraduate film school. She was at a transitional period in her career when, after getting sick, she took time off. In doing so, she found the time to pursue another creative venture. The next thing she knew, a hobby turned into a new business – her own fashion line.

The Bottom Line:

I enjoyed the opportunity to film and edit this video. Working in the creative field isn’t easy but can also be extremely rewarding. As I stated in a previous article, you have to think outside of the box and produce your own opportunity in a creative world. It’s great if you have contacts, connections and “peeps” to open doors for you. If you’re applying for jobs, that’s great. Keep at it. But in the meantime, if the doors aren’t opening immediately, then why rely on others to give you the opportunity that you can otherwise create for yourself?

George Lopez

Can Goals and “To-Do” Lists Actually Lead to Self-Sabotage?

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to-do-list1According to a LinkedIn survey, 11 percent of 6,500 professionals said they regularly complete their “to-do” lists. Meanwhile, less than two-thirds actually create a list in the first place. Do you use lists, and are they helpful? All this time, have we been led astray on how important of lists are to our success?

Entrepreneur, weightlifter and travel photographer James Clear writes how goals ultimately reduce the level of individual happiness because one winds up not feeling good about themself until or unless that goal is accomplished. Clear goes on to point out how goals can often become huge burdens. It makes total sense if you’re hard pressed to complete your to-do list and reach big goals rather than changing your perspective or process. It’s like dieting. I’ve often heard from people who have been fighting to lose weight that when they finally achieved their goal it wasn’t because they went on a diet. They stopped “dieting” and they changed how they ate instead.

Similar to what Clear explains in his article, the focus ought to be on the practice and not on the performance. When you’re goal oriented it truly does become about how much you do, how much you get done and how much you acquire in order to have to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem and, often, mental health rides on items being checked off your list rather than on the actual accomplishment. Read the rest of this entry »

Are There Mental Health Benefits to Joining Facebook Groups?

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freebies2deals-cyber-monday-salesSmall and large companies aren’t the only ones that bank on the convenience of the Internet. Obviously some of us who refuse to camp out in front of Target, Wal-Mart, Best Buy, and any other stores opt to spend our money online to avoid the crowds. But as Cyber Monday has come to a close, some of us enjoy the comfort and convenience of the Internet for other reasons.

Everyone has a bad day, but some of us struggle with the lack of that “happy” gene more than others. According to a Huffington Post article by Michael Sigmen, approximately half of our happiness is linked to our genetic make up. How close are you to genetic happiness?

Half of a PieWow, half is quite a chunk of our happiness pie, leaving the leftovers to be fractioned off to environment, circumstances and/or traumatic life events. If depression is more than a chemical imbalance and is actually deeply ingrained in our DNA, then what can we actually do about it?

The Internet is used for a number of reasons, only some of which have to do with viral marketing. Social media sites allow for individuals as well as organizations to connect with people from all over the world and share their individual brand. But behavior on these sites can run unchecked, which have literally given both social media and the Internet a bad rap. Lyrics posted on Facebook threatening to not only kill his wife but also kindergarten kids landed wannabe rap artist Anthony Elonis in jail for 44 months. Privacy, freedom of speech, an increase in social isolation, and a host of other number of issues arise when discussing social media and the potential negative ramifications. Read the rest of this entry »

Do Blog “Likes” Reflect Writing Quality?

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I write because it’s what I do and have always done. As a child, and without thinking, I used to carry a pen and a note pad everywhere I went. The words always just flowed forth. Even as an adult, for the longest time I had notebooks and notebooks of written material I saved that dated back to elementary school. The notebooks were so old the pages bled and eventually the words were unreadable. At that point I finally had to realize that they were too old and I needed to part ways with literally a large box. When I was in the second grade, I recall my mother’s voice and how she used to insist that all of her children ought to be a doctor or a lawyer. Writing wasn’t the path to success or big money, she reasoned.

I never put too much thought into it, but I always knew I’d be a writer. It never dawned on me that it might not be the best profession to choose to get rich. I didn’t care. Today, I still haven’t gone out of my way to gain blogger likes or approval from other writers. Heck, at one point I even disabled the option. I also don’t spend a terrible amount of time reading tons and tons of other blogs. It’s not that I don’t want to; it’s just that there are simply so many out there. Many writers are motivated to read someone else’s stuff and to receive likes and comments in return. Sometimes the motive is to simply gain more followers or fellow blogger fans. Personally, I enjoy “liking” and commenting on posts that I truly enjoy.

I write because it is what I have been doing since I was 5 years old. It is not something that I decided to just do one day. Not that late inspiration is a bad thing. But for me, it’s something that has been inside of me since birth and that has always flown freely. I recall when I was younger I used to read slowly. I am still a slow reader. My little Korean mother was too stubborn to believe in diagnosis or doctors. I recall hardly ever seeing a doctor because mother said in her broken English, “I know how to do it. I fix.” And it wasn’t until I was well into my adult years that I was actually diagnosed with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder. It didn’t come as a surprise to me. Read the rest of this entry »

Happy Thanksgiving

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The Bottom Line

Let’s try to be thankful for all that we do have and not just because of this one day a year where we fill up on enough turkey to put us to sleep. You don’t have to look too far to find something to complain about or something you don’t have. It’s easy to see what we lack and harder to count our blessings. And the blessings worth treasuring are not monetary, but the loved ones that are in our life whether they are family or close friends. There’s a lot to be grateful for and it usually begins at home.

William Blake



Some Contacts Are Not Worth Keeping: Let the Bridge Burn!

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Burning Bridge

Some people insist that you never want to burn a bridge, especially in professional settings. But, what if there is mismanagement, miscommunications, terrible leadership, indecisiveness, and “too many chiefs, but not enough Indians?” How about a football team. Can a football team work effectively if everyone insists on being the quarterback and the team is unable to work together because everyone wants to be the alpha? Can a marriage or relationship work if both parties refuse to communicate with each other and set clear expectations? Ever date someone who could not communicate what they want and how long did that relationship last? Ever work with clients or in an environment where everything a company leader should not do, that person decided to do?

What about respect? Have you ever had to cut ties with a self-centered friend where everything was always about them? What about dating someone who couldn’t trust anything you did because of their own insecurities? And what if you had to work with people who refuse to respect or trust your abilities because it’s more about their ego and their need to be in charge? If people flat-out refuse to respect your expertise or trust what you are capable of then, I don’t believe that you should desire to salvage that relationship. Period. If there are big egos and entitled behavior where mismanagement is so bad, communication is so terrible then what choice do you have? I do not believe in the type of diplomacy where I must sacrifice my own self-worth and integrity. I do not agree that one must be a martyr in personal or professional situations where one must continuously turn the other cheek only for a repeated slap to eventually turn into a punch.

How many hits do you have to take before you take a stand and say that you deserve better?

The Bottom Line:

I am rather positive on this site. However, I am a firm believer in being an honest writer. Being brutally honest might not feel comfortable or sound like an Anthony Robbins self-help talk. Not that I don’t love that sort of thing, but it’s imperative to not ignore or dismiss fundamental problems especially when working with either dysfunctional professional situations or individuals in your personal life where you should take a stand.

If leadership is lacking it’s usually indicative of a larger issue that stems from the person who’s been given the keys to the company. It’s the same with how a child’s behavior is a reflection on parenting skills. If you’ve got a friend or a relationship that leaves you feeling like you’ve been taken advantage of or where there is a lack of reciprocity, team work, respect and you’ve noticed this to be a repeated pattern. Then you have to ask yourself how much do you love and respect yourself? If you’re around incompetent “decision makers” that continuously make horrible decisions, ones that can potentially cost the company additional funds, not to mention added chaos. A bridge should only be available and cared for if indeed it’s worth it. If you respect and honor yourself you’ll know that you deserve better.

Sometimes the only solution is to take a lighter fluid, ignite the match and burn that bridge down.

Robert Tew

Law and Injustice in Ferguson: Wilson Walks

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I would think that if Darren Wilson were to be indicted then he would have been arrested by now. In paraphrasing, that’s basically what CNN news anchor Don Lemon explained based upon a couple of interviews conducted just minutes before the grand jury announcement, and it definitely made sense. This racially charged tragedy has definitely stirred a deep feeling of injustice and not only for those in Ferguson, Missouri. When it comes to race, things can often become complicated, especially for those of us who are mixed ethnicities. Some of us American mutts face more peculiar looks and questions than others who look more like one obvious ethnicity.

Justice is supposed to surpass race. It’s not just an ethical issue but also one that questions our moral integrity as a society. I believe the grand jury’s decision is unfair and I am not remotely comfortable with it. At the very least, as one who is unable to check just one racial box, it’s undeniably frustrating. I am often asked to pick between the options of “two or more races – not Hispanic,” “Hispanic” or Asian — but where’s the choice for Asian and Hispanic? How can it be in the U.S. melting pot that there isn’t a box for “two or more race including Hispanic?” And why does Hispanic even need to be specified? Some job applications allow for a “two or more races” box to be checked and leave out the “not Hispanic” part. For the most part, most job applications expect individuals to choose one ethnicity. If you are more than one race, you must choose one over another.

I am not sure how my ethnicity qualifies or disqualifies me from having the necessary skill set, education, and experience required to do a job. But, this is just one minor personal annoyance when having to deal with this touchy topic. People just hate talking about race.

The Bottom Line:

Officer Darren Wilson killed unarmed Michael Brown, shooting him six times. If Michael Brown was intimidating as Darren Wilson claims and was acting out or not cooperating with instructions. Why wasn’t a stun gun or other non-deadly methods used instead? Especially for someone who was unarmed? Prosecutor Robert McCulloch (who has been rumored to be extremely pro-law enforcement) made the bizarre, long and drawn out announcement. Where he proceeded to sound as if he was trying to justify how the verdict was decided. If this were a case involving two random individuals, someone would have been arrested by now. But, since it involves someone with a badge, it looks like the “evidence” shows that Officer Darren Wilson will get to go back to his job and his everyday life. Meanwhile, a grieving family and a community suffers through the loss of an innocent life gunned down.

What made the grand jury decide to believe some witnesses and discount others? Perhaps it’s true that those in law enforcement really do serve and protect their own. No, I do not agree with the riots, looting, and violence taking place that’s burning down the Ferguson community. However, I personally have family in law enforcement in New York and regardless I still honestly believe that justice was not served.

Martin Luther King, Jr



It’s Not About You!

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Having a peace that surpasses human understanding is a challenge in almost any situation. There are natural human emotions that course through our bodies in response to professional or personal experiences. But, if you are unable to find peace, then you must examine the feelings inside you and decide for yourself what lesson you will learn.

On a personal level, we all hope that we are able to elevate ourselves above negativity. Instead, we strive to bring into our lives everything that’s good, that we know that we are abundant in every department, which makes up our universe and we lack no resources. While some of us exist with that deep knowledge within us, the reality might be to the contrary. In our professional lives we might have all the skills necessary to prove our competency, but one cannot force respect from others. Respect is “earned,” as some might say, yet even if it’s earned we still live in a world full of stubborn people who sometimes aren’t willing to respect you. It stops becoming about whether or not you “earned” respect and it starts becoming about someone else’s ignorance.

Especially in professional circles, I have found that some people will refuse to show any sort of respect for education, skills and competency regardless of what you do or how much you prove. The greatest lesson I have learned in how and why people treat you the way they do is that their behavior very rarely has anything to do with you. A person’s arrogance, entitlement and egoism — and let’s not forget the natural chip on one’s shoulder — is a reflection of whatever unresolved baggage they still lug around. Read the rest of this entry »

An Artist’s Perspective: A Calling

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There are sure paths that some take, ones that are not riddled with uncertainty. Plenty of people choose a stable career. There isn’t any ambiguity. You go to medical school, you get out and do your residency, and then you’re a doctor.

It’s not so cut and dry for those that have chosen the arts, however. For some it’s not a decision that they woke up one day and thought they’d like to do. It’s more of a calling.

The Bottom Line:

There are some risks in life that are worth taking. Regardless if your path might not be the conventional or safe one, the world needs all kinds of people. What would the world be like without art, without music, without films, without books, without dance, without opera? We would all be shells devoid of creativity, the life force of spirit.

Georgia O'Keeffe

Be Your Own Ally: The Value of Failing

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Two Thumbs Up!!Maybe you live in a world where everyone cheers you on, where everyone is on your side and no one wants to rain on your parade. If so, then I’d love to visit your universe because, in reality, where good exists so does the bad. And if you grew up being told all your life that everything you did was great, that you could do no wrong, then your first sign of rejection probably turned your world upside down.

While it’s fine to get a trophy just for participating, the blow of a loss, rejection, a letdown, and, yes, failure can be just as much of a prize. It might not sound logical at first but understanding how to take a hit is just as valuable, if not, more so than all the gooshy flattering words of affirmation one can spew on another.

Who doesn’t love positive words to affirm our value, self-worth, and give us meaning where we might otherwise feel void of purpose? Who doesn’t want to be reminded of our greatness, to be told we can do anything and everything? When in reality we might hate exercise, for example, so becoming an Olympic athlete might be out of the question. Read the rest of this entry »

Success Doesn’t Require A Leap, But A Micro-Step

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New-Year-ResolutionsAccording to recent 2014 statistics, here are the top 10 New Year’s resolutions: lose weight; get organized; save more money; enjoy life more; stay fit; learn something new; quit smoking; help others; fall in love; and spend more time with family.

However, out of the 45 percent of Americans who make New Year’s resolution, 24 percent fail and only 8 percent actually succeed.

Many people also have a bucket list of what they’d like to achieve before they leave this earth. Running a marathon happens to be one of the most popular. In 1976 there were approximately 25,000 marathon finishers, a small number compared to the record high of 541,000 determined runners that completed marathons in 2013. This is despite the Boston marathon bombing on April 15, 2013. Rather than deterring Americans, the tragedy perhaps inspired more runners to put on their running shoes. Read the rest of this entry »

The Evolution Of Halloween

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Halloween was influenced by Celtic harvest festivals with a purpose to confront the power of death with humor and ridicule. Devout religious folk might blame paganism, but it was Western Christianity that initially celebrated All Hallow’s Eve. This was the day that Christians went to church and lit candles on graves in remembrance of the dead. Rather than costumes or candy, Western Christians refrained from eating meat on All Hallow’s Eve. Though, in the 19th century costumes would be revived and made popular by Scottish and Irish immigrants.


The Bottom Line:

As you dress your little ones and enjoy ‘trick or treating’ with family or friends at a costume party, enjoy the many influences that helped Halloween evolve into the fun celebration it is today.


Maryville H.S. Shooting: One of Six School Shootings in Six Months

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There have been six fatal school shootings during which innocent victims were killed in the past six months within the United States. However, there have been a total of 15 school shootings in as many months. Of these documented incidents since May, nine of the shootings lead to injuries and no deaths. One of the 15 shooting was death by suicide (a bullied 14 year-old Lamar Hawkins killed himself in a middle school restroom). Since January 2014 there have been a total of 39 school or university related shootings, as a result of which some combination of injury, death or both was reported. Not all are student related. One incident involved a knife-wielding man who was shot and killed on the San Jose University campus. Two of the 39 documented shootings since January were fatal marital spats. One man murdered his wife in a school parking lot and then later turned the gun on himself. 33 year-old Michelle Wilcox also suffered the same fate as she was shot and killed by husband Antonio Wilcox behind a Miami preschool. One other student, Zachary Leyes, like Lamar Hawkins decided to take his own life.

No other country experiences this type of violence amongst its youth. This seems to be unique to the United States. Why? Is it the deterioration of family values? Could it be as simple as a desire to commit copy-cat murder? Perhaps.

But in today’s incident, the school shooter was reportedly NOT bullied by peers. However it is rumored that popular freshman Jaylen Fryberg might have been publicly taunted via social media regarding his relationship, or lack thereof, with a female love interest. Regardless, what is unanimously reported is that Jaylen was a popular, well-liked, football player and had been recently crowned “Homecoming Prince.” It has been revealed that he just came off school suspension after fighting with another student. Now, older tweets by students are surfacing and various news sources and student witnesses claim that Fryberg apparently asked the girl out but she basically rejected him. As a result, he shot and killed her, wounded four other students and ultimately took his own life. Perhaps, Jaylen Fryberg had difficulty dealing with rejection and humiliation.

1.) October 24, 2014,

Maryville, WA

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Four injured, one dead not including the killer (Jaylen Fryberg) who shot himself.

2.) October 3, 2014,

Fairburn, GA

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One dead (18 year-old Eric Dana Johnson Jr. was arrested alive).

3.) September 10, 2014

Lake Mary, FL

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One dead (14 year-old Lamar Hawkins shot himself in the school bathroom).

3.) June 10, 2014

Troutdale, Oregon

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One teacher injured, one student dead not including (15 year-old Jared Michael Padgett) who shot himself.

5.) June 5, 2014

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Two injured, one dead. 26-year-old Aaron Ybarra is currently being held at King County Jail.

6.) May 23, 2014,

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Six injured, six dead not including the killer (Elliot Rodgers) who shot himself.

Bottom Line:

Are kids so fragile in the 21st century that they can’t deal with bullying, not being liked, being unpopular, or a relationship break-up or rejection? No matter how “well adjusted” youth or kids today might appear? Fryberg was NOT the typical isolated, bullied, 14 year-old with a history of mental illness. Was he mentally unstable? Well, to do what he did I would say so. However, no one expected this from a popular kid. Though, he was overly excited when his parents decided to buy him a GUN for his birthday, one that he was rather proud of, as he gloated with a picture via Instagram. Perhaps parents ought not to buy their kids guns, and guns should not be so readily accessible to our youth today. Above all else, we need to seriously consider MANDATORY parenting classes in hopes to instruct parents, as well as educators on how to teach healthy coping skills to vulnerable/fragile/mentally unstable teens and young adults.

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Video Killed the Radio Star But Can Breathe Life Into Your Brand

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Many  bundle of US 100 dollars bank notesIs it truly necessary to continue to spend hundreds, if not, thousands of marketing dollars for a pricey commercial spot during prime time? For major billion dollar companies, it’s a no brainer. They can afford to have a rather lofty budget set aside for an all inspiring cinematic commercial shot at some exotic location. Hey, whatever it takes to get you into that brand new 2015 vehicle.

It’s frightening for many of us to realize that many youth today will never know a time before the Internet. Truth be told, most of us can admit that regardless of what generation we’ve been born into, we now can’t image doing without the Internet.

Back in 1992, the Internet was limited to large companies such as the European Organization for Nuclear Research that launched CERN, which will go down in our history books as the very first website launched. Now days, anyone can create their own website. Simple template-based tools such as Wix and allow anyone with browser access to create a professional site without needing to know a lick of code. Read the rest of this entry »

Love is an Action, Not a Text Message

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There is strong speculation that there are numerous ways love is demonstrated and expressed. There are also varying definitions for what love is based upon the individual, because love can often be very subjective.

According to the well-known self-help book The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, love can be expressed through words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. However, from my perspective all of these can be grouped into one simple category: action.

My experience in dealing with a dysfunctional, cold and emotionless family and the ups and downs of personal and romantic relationship tells me that everyone to some degree can relate to either giving too much love or not receiving enough. Don’t get me wrong, Dr. Chapman is correct that there are various ways you can express love, but the best way is through action.8839468-i-love-you-hd
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Setting Expectations in Your Professional & Personal Life

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According to an article from Harvard Business Review, Four Mistakes Leaders Keep Making, a common behavioral trap to fall into is the failure to set proper expectations. While the article is geared toward working professionals in various fields, setting expectations is imperative in your personal life as well.

expectationsLack of communication can cause the smallest conflict to erupt into World War III. While there is an art to every craft, there are different types of genius. Muhammad Ali couldn’t develop the theory of relativity because he wasn’t a physicist. Albert Einstein, meanwhile, wasn’t trained to win 56 out of 61 boxing bouts, 37 of those victories by way of knock out.

No matter how brilliant Ali was in the ring or Einstein was at science, neither completed a musical composition at the age of 5 like Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart did. Read the rest of this entry »

Don’t Underestimate The Power Of Your Voice & The Internet

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I will make this short and sweet today. Most of us yearn to share what is on our mind. Most of us don’t always feel heard and that’s what makes some of us turn to writing. Be warned of what you write, because your words hold immense amount of power.

I recently wrote about the major pitfalls of obtaining your own health insurance. To this day, I still haven’t received my health insurance card. I am still waiting until Monday to call HealthNet back to ask them if they “found” my check. Yes, I mailed the check via online banking the way most folks in the 21st Century pay bills. So, to give you a little background before I dive into the power of the Internet, I wanted to share what had initially prompted me to write the article in the first place. Read the rest of this entry »

The Major Pitfalls of Obtaining Your Own Health Insurance

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I try to stay positive on this site, but my recent health care fiasco left me struggling to take deep breaths to calm down, attempting not to scream as a result of my frustration.

I recently transitioned from working full time for an employer to becoming my own boss. It’s had its ups and downs for sure. The work, at least initially, can be sporadic, so it’s difficult to determine specifically how much you’ll actually make monthly much less annually. The first year of self-employment is not as steady as the second year, I’m told. I certainly hope so.

stethoscope-on-moneyI found that I make too much money to qualify for Medi-Cal, which is not a bad problem to have. Yet, because there is still three months remaining in the year, and having just started my freelance practice, I cannot accurately predict how much I stand to make. So, I’ve been searching for a health plan that fits my wallet, and I wanted to be reasonably conservative.

Going cheap definitely has its pitfalls. I was asked how often I go to the doctor, but the plan that was the most attractive in terms of cost only gave me the option (and hope) to visit one up to two times within one calendar year. The insurance plans that are most affordable to healthy young adults include incredibly high deductibles. In other words, you basically don’t really have insurance. Often times you are required to pay $2,000 or more out of pocket within the year before your benefit finally kicks in. Say What?! Read the rest of this entry »

The Power of Friending

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There are some positions in life that cannot be replaced. One of those is the job of being an older sister. I don’t talk to all of my family, but I definitely appreciate the way one sister in particular who always has my back.

sistersMaria is my oldest sister who I always have been able to talk to, someone who withholds judgment and, most importantly, is down to Earth. That is a big plus for me. She has never made me feel like there was any sort of sibling rivalry between us. Read the rest of this entry »

Producing Your Own Opportunity in a Creative World

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Healthy competition exists in every industry. However, some fields are much more competitive than others. This is especially true for the entertainment industry and most, if not all, creative fields.

Creative-peopleIf you don’t want the stress of not knowing how or when you will break into the industry, then entertainment is certainly not for you. There are many people who choose a career in medicine, law, engineering, technology, and computer science because these are fields that, while not without stiff competition, tend to be more stable. That is a healthy goal to have, especially when you start building a family.

For those of us who have a desire to not simply work but to thrive in a particular creative field, then we have to be prepared to think outside of the box. Creativity after all is a prerequisite for us to get work in the first place, and it should also be used for how we make our career plans. Read the rest of this entry »

ALS Challenge Joke on Autistic Teen: Sign of Ailing Society?

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On September 4, an Autistic boy was duped into doing the ALS ice bucket challenge. Unbeknownst to him rather than ice in the bucket, he was doused with urine, feces, spit, and cigarette butts.

 The Bottom Line

This horrific and inhuman act is beyond cruel. Whoever participated ought to receive the maximum punishment. The local police and school district are investigating.

Comedian Drew Carey is offering $10,000 to catch who did this. Come on, someone must know! This is an AWFUL and CRUEL prank. No one deserves this type of treatment. How can kids these days get away with something so disgusting? They posted this on Instagram. Can’t Instagram or any of these other social networking sites help authorities locate who the account belongs to? Don’t kids realize these days the repercussions of what is posted on the Internet and that the information is not private? What happened to common sense?

There have been numerous bullying awareness programs released by various educational institutions, groups, states and the federal government over the past several years. But, this is an act way beyond bullying. It is inhuman and disgusting. This is treating someone like they are an animal or even worse.

Whoever is in charge of investigating this “prank” ought to start working over time and all “teens” regardless of whether or not they are minors ought to be prosecuted under the fullest extent of the law.





An Inspirational View On the Ferguson Shooting & Culture

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Let’s find out who this guy is, it’s been going around Facebook. Very deep. Worth watching.

Marcus Garvey




When It’s Time to Divorce Your Family

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I am thoroughly amused by the plethora of topics at our disposal via peculiar sites on the web. I Google “pet peeves” just for fun and came across,, and a variety of articles ranging from college humor to Vibe’s article on the 20 most common pet peeves.

Do you have a pet peeve? Most certainly you do, and probably several. No matter how nice you might be or if you have all the patience in the world there will always be someone or something that gets under your skin like no one or nothing else.

Just like bizarre fetishes, there are common and not so common pet peeves that drive people bonkers. I once dated a guy who hated lip balm. You might be thinking, “huh?” Yeah, I felt the same way too. Here’s what happened.

He worked with someone who obsessively applied the stuff. Apparently, this particularly annoying co-worker re-applied lip balm every other minute regardless of the fact that his lips weren’t even chapped. This left his lips in a permanent state of not just over-gloss but also made him look like he just devoured a lit candle. He clearly was addicted to the lip balm, feeling he needed to slather himself with it when in reality he only needed it in especially sunny, dry, cold or windy conditions.

Everyone has at least one pet peeve. I don’t care who you are. The late Mother Teresa had to have had at least one thing that others disliked about her, even if that was only the fact she loved everyone unconditionally. That has to piss someone off, right?

Unfortunately, people can tell you to not let “it” (whatever that it may be) get to you, but we’re all human. Sometimes you don’t even know you’ve got a pet peeve until it rears its head. What gets to me, to the extent that it has affected my mood and has sparked episodes of depression, is dealing with a person who feels the need to one-up me. I understand that there are competitive people out there, but I do not believe that being overly competitive, rude even, equals success. In fact, I find some highly competitive people to be toxic. Read the rest of this entry »

RIP Joan Rivers

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A very sad day to have lost another beautiful human being with so much spirit. She gave the world so much and refused to quit.

She left us all better people.

She left her humor and laughter and spunk. She wasn’t ordinary and that is why there will never be another Joan Rivers.

Joan Rivers


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Joan-Rivers-Black-White-photo001Look in a dictionary under ‘relentless’, ‘energy’, ‘ incredible’ or ‘professional’ and there you will find a pic of Ms Joan Rivers. 1933 – 2014.

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Is the Adobe Creative Cloud Worth It?

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Adobe-Creative-Cloud-iconThose of us who were used to buying software licenses off the shelf were a little thrown off by Adobe’s announcement on May 6, 2013 that the company would no longer release new versions of Creative Suite, at least not in the manner we had grown accustomed to.

No longer could users of Photoshop, Premier or Illustrator purchase software updates, install a DVD and run an executable to load the latest updates. Adobe was taking its suite into the cloud, where the company could more easily make updates across platforms and ostensibly save millions of dollars not only on support but product packaging.

But it was in 2006 that truly popularized the term “the cloud” when it released its Elastic Compute Cloud to allow scalable deployment of applications via a Web service. Read the rest of this entry »

A Labor Day Tribute: Giving Gratitude to Those Who Fought for Worker’s Rights

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Peter-j-mcguireAccording to the U.S. Department of Labor, there remains speculation over which McGuire (or is it Maguire?) is to credit for the start of Labor Day. New evidence suggests it was Matthew Maguire, though many still believe it was Peter McGuire.

While Matthew Maguire was the secretary of the New York Labor Union in 1882 and led a strike in 1870 with the intended goal of making union leaders aware of the harsh long work hours, most historians say Labor Day was the idea of Peter McGuire. He was the general secretary of the Brotherhood of Carpenters and Joiners and a co-founder of the American Federation of Labor, and is said to have first suggested a day to honor those “who from rude nature have delved and carved all the grandeur we behold.” Read the rest of this entry »

Weigh the Pros and Cons of Self-Employment to Determine if it’s Right for You

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Being self-employed has definite benefits and drawbacks. Owning your own business or working for yourself can sound like a dream come true, but is it really? It’s all up to you and how you prepare yourself and your blossoming business for success.freelance

The positive side to working from home is that you can set your own hours. The down side is that you work from home and set your own hours. It’s very easy to deviate from the hours you plan on working when you are your own boss. Good ideas can come to you in the middle of the night, while cooking dinner or even playing with your children. When you work at home, you’re almost always at work. Think about it. Is that what you really want?

Most self-employed small business owners and freelancers tend to not deviate from their schedules. In other words they are workaholics. They don’t know the meaning of an eight-hour day. In fact, if they don’t work a 12 or 13-hour day they feel like a slacker. At least that’s how I feel. Read the rest of this entry »

Sleep is Our Best Friend for Professional, Personal Health

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Imagine a type of fatigue that numbs you head to toe and scrambles your thoughts until you are engulfed in an incoherent fog. You might be so overcome with exhaustion that you literally cannot see straight. You are drained not by an intense workout at the gym or a long day spent in the sun but by a lack of sleep. But, no matter how tired you are you are unable to rest.

You’re brain will not shut off. Thoughts continue to race around your head as each minute and hour that ticks by makes you more and more frustrated. Insomnia, especially chronic insomnia, can be caused by a numerous factors. Regardless of general causes, studies show that insomnia to be one of the key signs of clinical depression. Read the rest of this entry »

Choosing to Feed the Good in Ourselves

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ChoiceManifesting positive energy in our lives benefits more than just our attitude. Positivity can reduce stress, brighten our countenance and potentially make us a magnet for good. When we are negative, however, we can unknowingly repel people and shut doors rather than open us up to new opportunities.

Though for some of us, remaining optimistic isn’t always easy, especially if we are prone to depression. I am a total believer that our minds are much more powerful than we give it credit for, and that we are truly capable of changing our belief system. It’s not easy. For some of us it is a daily task and requires diligent practice. And how we react to depression, or our “bad day,” is crucial. Read the rest of this entry »

The Daunting Statistics on Depression & Suicide: More Awareness = Less Stigma

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Depression and Sorrow

According to recent depression statistics, amongst Americans one out of ten claim to be suffering from depression. Nationally, out of all those who suffer only 20 percent actually get treated. In other words, 80 percent of clinically depressed individuals aren’t being treated at all. And the number of depressed individuals increases by 20 percent annually.

lets-talk-about-mental-healthWhy are so many individuals not receiving treatment for clinical depression? Perhaps the stigma, fear of what family, loved ones, and friends might think or say? Perhaps clinically depressed or the 80 percent that have symptoms of clinical depression are too proud or even embarrassed. Most people do not say that they really enjoy being around someone who is feeling down, especially if the “low days” tend to be often. When depression takes a hold of people susceptible to the illness, it can be situational where the depression is more or less seasonal. Read the rest of this entry »